What Kids Need to Succeed

“Dear Jen:
I hear so much about all of the terrifying choices young people make (sex, bullying, drugs, dropping out of school, etc.) and I wonder what can I do to help my child make healthy decisions? Is there a secret formula to what they need to succeed? ”

-Wondering Parent in CSSU

Dear Wondering Parent in CSSU:
This is a great question! Whether your child has just started elementary, middle or high school or they are in the process of applying for college, there are many strategies to help support your child in decision making towards health and success. I will outline a few key thoughts about “what kids need to succeed” and encourage you to access further online resources or attend the CY/Friends of CVU sponsored event on October 5th on this exact subject!

The first key to skilled parenting is: good communication. In my work with young people and parenting class instruction, I have found that families who are honest and open in their communication have much closer relationships and the children are more likely to make healthy choices.

The second key to supporting your child is: clear expectations within a family. If children understand expectations, they will know exactly what is considered acceptable behavior. This will allow kids to understand consequences and they will be less likely to engage in risky behaviors.

My final thought for this quick version of what kids need to succeed is that classic saying: “It takes a village to raise a child.” It is hard to imagine a young person growing up without the positive influence of adults in their lives. Does your child have a role model? Is your child connected to their school or your community? Research shows that young people who have positive connections make healthy choices.

For a more extensive description of what kids need to succeed, check out the 40 Developmental Assets at www.search-institute.org. According to researchers from the Search Institute, these assets are powerful enough to influence the decisions young people make.
Students make many difficult decisions as they navigate through adolescence. There are many things you can do, as a parent, teacher, or neighbor to both empower and encourage young people to make healthy decisions! For more information please contact your child’s School Counselor or SAP Counselor.

Sincerely, Jen Bickel
SAP Counselor at CVU